After speaking to the headquarters I got more information on who a doula is, what they do, and how I can have a doula as I am going through intense cancer. A phone call later and I was introduced to Diane and a visit later and we were firm friends. So a weekly visit was agreed upon. We filled out the paperwork and I officially have a doula.
Well what a blessing. Diane has gone into bat for me to ensure things are set in place for me. There are so many things you do not know about – like all the forms to fill in for end of life care. Do you want to be resuscitated? These may be tough things to look at but really important.
To have someone gently assist you to consider all the implications is really important. We Brits find it hard to talk about death !! And who knew there was so much to do, and decisions to make around dying? So helpful to have a doula to do this with. Diane has been a good friend and a blessing to have around during this rather intense time of serious illness. So if you are dealing with death and someone suggests a doula – I would say “Go for it” amazing support for you at this time of life. You deserve this caring and assistance.
I have certainly been grateful for Diane – who has been so willing to assist me whenever possible. I cannot imagine going through something like this without my doula. Thank you and bless you Diane for being you.
I called Christmas Eve to say my Father wanted to come home to be with his Family Christmas Day and to die at home. He needed a person to be with him at night. I called End of Life Doula UK to ask for support. After a short pause I heard the words 'We can do that'. My Father died at home with me at his side – the Doula gave me the confidence and support I needed to fulfil his wish.
JB - Devon
He [the End of Life Doula] was indispensable – he stepped in to do anything we needed and was 100% reliable and compassionate in those last months.
TMM - Kent
I was on my knees and needed respite from the care of my Partner who had MND. The Doula stepped in at short notice to cover me and she also talked to the GP to get additional care so I could cope and spend good quality time with Neil.
CM - Brighton
Mum was in a Care Home. She was frightened of dying. She needed someone to talk to about her hopes and fears before she died. Two Doulas were made available to be with her night and day to soothe and comfort her and she went peacefully. I am most grateful because without them I am sure she would have died in distress.
SP - Bradford
I needed to get my affairs in order because I am a single Woman who lives on her own and don't want to leave a mess for Others' to sort out. M helped me do my Advance Decision to Refuse Treatment and my Advance Statement. She made it simple and a pleasure to do! Thank you, M!
MC - Birmingham
L was there for the hardest of times from when K was told that there was no more treatment she could be given, during the last weeks making cups of tea, doing housework, relieving me to sit with K right through to helping me plan K's funeral. I call L every now and then as we went through so much together to make K's dying as good as it could be. My heart is broken.
HP - Edinburgh
I enlisted the help of End of Life Doula UK when my Mum was approaching the end of her life. She had suffered from Parkinson’s disease for 27 years and was living in a care home. To this day I can’t believe how lucky we were. [End of Life Doula] was our saviour and I can’t imagine how this would have turned out without her. She understood what we were dealing with and dealt with our enormous difficulties incredibly skilfully. She helped us navigate through Mums death and her funeral. Mum had the most wonderful funeral and we were able to come together on that day to give tribute to the wonderful woman she was and that was 100% down to [End of Life Doula]. I can’t thank her enough. Losing someone you love is incredibly difficult, no matter what the circumstances and when it happens, we all need an [End of Life Doula].
CW - Leeds
I sought out (End of Life Doula)’s assistance when my father was nearing end of life after being admitted to hospital with late-stage dementia and acutely altered mental state. It was a very confusing time for myself and my mother. The comprehensiveness of the information and the sympathetic way that (End of Life Doula) provided it was hugely refreshing for all of us involved and gave us a lot more clarity. From that point on, I can safely say that none of the other staff involved in the end of life process came close to providing the level of service that (End of Life Doula) did. Had it not been for this assistance, the process would have been significantly more confusing and upsetting for all of us. Thankfully we were prepared for it and the process was far less daunting than it would have been.
MC - Leeds